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The older I get, the less I seem to know. But after 35 years of bumps
and bruises, laughter and love, there are ten things that I know for
1. The most important things in life can't be bought-a
glass of wine with good friends, sunsets and sunrises, laughing until
tears roll down your cheeks, a perfect day at the beach, family that
loves you unconditionally, sitting under a tree on a sunny day, holiday
dinners with family and friends, playing with your pets, giggling with
your children, giving to others, the list goes on and on. No person will
lie on their deathbed and say "I'm really glad I bought that fancy
couch to impress my neighbors."
2. The only person responsible for your life, is you-
While you can't control everything that happens to you, you can control
how you react to it, what lessons you learn and whether you allow life
to make you weaker or stronger, softer or harder. The world doesn't owe
anyone anything, but you do owe it to yourself to create a life you
love. Don't be a victim. (Note: some days it's OK to curl under a
blanket on the couch, with Netflix, ice cream and wine, and feel like a
victim for a few hours. Then get up and dust yourself off).
3. What other people think of you is not your business-Sure, it would be nice to be liked and loved by everyone, but when it comes to making major life decisions, everyone
will have an opinion. Politely thank them, and carry on with what is
right for you. Those who genuinely like and love you will do so anyway.
Those who have nothing nice to say, probably won't regardless of what
4. Nobody likes a complainer-If you
don't like something, change it and don't bring problems to the table
without bringing potential solutions. We all have good days and bad
days, and it's healthy to express emotions. But if you're never
able to come up with anything positive to say, or you're angry all the
time and attacking others, it may be time to sit down, have some silent
time with yourself and look inside to see what's driving your
unhappiness. Life is too short to be unhappy.
5. Hate can't be fought with more hate-Responding to hate, with more hate, is a futile struggle. The only cure for hate is love. It's impossible
for hate to survive in an environment filled with love. Impossible.
Hate spreads like the flu. You can let it engulf you, and spread it to
others, or you can be the person that lights up the room. It takes more
work to be the light, but it comes with far greater reward.
6. Travel is important-I've
done a fair amount of traveling. From watching polar bears stroll
through town to watching crocodiles swim down a river; from ocean to
mountains; from northern lights to corn fields. Learning about the
world, and all that inhabit it first hand, gives you a perspective that
you can't learn from a book or in a classroom. Get out and see the
world, whether it's two hours away or across the ocean. It will change
7. You have to think for yourself-No
matter what you hear, read, see or are told, don't take it at face
value. It's almost impossible for humans to be completely objective and
everyone has an agenda, no matter how harmless it may be. Check facts,
find sources to validate the sources. Question everything and come to
your own conclusions. You have a world of information at your
fingertips, don't let anyone tell what you should believe, take the time
to decide what you believe.
8. Your ego is a dangerous thing-It's
what tells you that you're right and someone else is wrong. It's what
tells you that one person is better or worse than another. It's what
blocks empathy, stops you from saying "I'm sorry", ends relationships.
It's that little voice that tells you that you aren't good enough. You
can never make it go away completely, but you can make it fade.
Meditate, spend time outdoors, do things that you love with people that
you love. Don't be afraid to say you're wrong or you're sorry. Don't be
afraid to care, to risk, to make mistakes, to get hurt. That is what
living is about.
9. Don't take one moment for granted-Time will pass quickly. You will lose people you love. Overuse "I love you".
10. Fear is a useless emotion-when you're fearful, you aren't living in the moment, and this moment is all we have for sure.
Currie is a full time public relations and communications professional
who also does freelance writing. She calls Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada
home and you can find her on Twitter @AllyLCurrie, on Instagram @ACURRIE34 or
on her blog thesilentmajorityrules.blogspot.ca where she writes about this, that and the other thing.